I've been asking for proof from the Qur'an that Islam condones the abuse of women but it seems like my requests have been falling on deaf ears. Point out to any Qur'anic verse that preaches the abuse of women to prove your claim.
Qur'an 4:34 (Pickthall)—Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret what Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High Exalted, Great.
The woman doesn't even have to do anything to earn the beating. He only has to "fear" rebellion, and he can send her to her own bed and scourge her.
The following quotes are taken from http://survincity.com/2012/12/in-islamic-countries-there-was-a-book-on-how-to/
Thus, the author of the book "Women in Islam" Mohamed Kamal Mustafa believes that a woman is beaten with a switch (not too thick), as the strikes have to bring it in the first place, "not physical, but spiritual suffering." The author recommends that men "to strike the sensitive parts of the body: face, chest, abdomen, head, and so on."
Finally, the author of the book "On the subordination of women in Islam" Hassan Asha articulates the cases in which a man is to dismiss his hands. Such a method of influence on his wife say if she refuses to smarten up before meeting her husband, does not want to satisfy his sexual needs, neglects her religious duties without permission leaves the house.
Above image taken from https://www.thereligionofpeace.com/pages/quran/wife-beating.aspx
The above site also includes the quote listed above that allows men to beat/scourge wives from the Quran, plus quotes from other Islamic texts (Hadith and Sira):
Sahih Bukhari (72:715) - A woman came to Muhammad and begged him to stop her husband from beating her. Her skin was bruised so badly that it is described as being "greener" than the green veil she was wearing. Muhammad did not admonish her husband, but instead ordered her to return to him and submit to his sexual desires.
Sahih Bukhari (72:715) - "Aisha said, 'I have not seen any woman suffering as much as the believing women'" Muhammad's own wife complained Muslim women were abused worse than other women.
Sahih Muslim (4:2127) - Muhammad struck his favorite wife, Aisha, in the chest one evening when she left the house without his permission. Aisha narrates, "He struck me on the chest which caused me pain."
Sahih Muslim (9:3506) - Muhammad's fathers-in-law (Abu Bakr and Umar) amused him by slapping his wives (Aisha and Hafsa) for annoying him. According to the Hadith, the prophet of Islam laughed upon hearing this.
Abu Dawud (2141) - "Iyas bin ‘Abd Allah bin Abi Dhubab reported the Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him) as saying: Do not beat Allah’s handmaidens, but when ‘Umar came to the Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him) and said: Women have become emboldened towards their husbands, he (the Prophet) gave permission to beat them." (This is graded sahih - authentic) At first, Muhammad forbade men from beating their wives. As the hadith indicates, he rescinded this once it was reported that women were becoming emboldened toward their husbands. Beatings in a Muslim marriage were deemed necessary at times to keep the woman in her place.
Abu Dawud (2142) - "The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife." The authenticity of this chain of narration is characterized as daif (weak), however, a similar verse from Sunan Ibn Majah 3:9:1986 is said to be hasan (sufficient).
Abu Dawud (2126) - "A man from the Ansar called Basrah said: 'I married a virgin woman in her veil. When I entered upon her, I found her pregnant. (I mentioned this to the Prophet).' The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: 'She will get the dower, for you made her vagina lawful for you. The child will be your slave. When she has begotten (a child), flog her'" A Muslim man thinks he is getting a virgin for a wife, then finds out that she is pregnant. Muhammad tells him to treat the woman as a sex slave and then flog her after she delivers the child. (Despite multiple chains of narration, this hadith is graded as daif).
Ibn Ishaq/Hisham 969 - Requires that a married woman be "put in a separate room and beaten lightly" if she "act in a sexual manner toward others." According to the Hadith, this can be for an offense as petty as merely being alone with a man to whom she is not related.
Kash-shaf (the revealer) of al-Zamkhshari (Vol. 1, p. 525) - [Muhammad said] "Hang up your scourge where your wife can see it"http://www.irfi.org/articles/articles_401_450/is_beating_the_woman_in_the_shar.htm
I'm certainly not suggesting that all Muslims beat their wives or that all Muslims that do beat their wives beat them or mutilate them as severely. But it is fact that it is common practice and it is commonly done and the men do not face punishment for these things, as the women are seen as his property do with with as he wishes.
I do call out people who call themselves Muslims for NOT calling out other Muslims who DO engage in barbaric, violent, cruel practices against women and girls. If you call yourself a Muslim and do NOT believe that women should be treated in these ways, you should be at the forefront of the voices calling for an end to the violence. The reality is that "Muslims" who want to be peaceful and not live in the manners prescribed by Islam are NOT considered true Muslims by devout Muslims, and will be risking their own lives to speak up. There is a lot of fear about being honest and exposing things that are going on where they are in fact happening.
Surely some countries are more "strict" in their practice than others, as are certain individuals within any given community. There are different brands of Islam and I certainly do not believe that everyone who calls or considers themselves Muslim approves of treating women this way. But those that do speak out and question Islam are branded Kafir and in Muslim majority countries are either ostracized or killed. In America, murder is less common and they are often just hated and villified and threatened, since USA still offers protection to its inhabitants and those who commit murders are normally going to be prosecuted.
But these "honor" killings and abuses do happen and there are real problems that need to be addressed and examined and talked about openly between all the people who do care about the way people are treated, whether they identify as Muslim or atheist or Christian or Jew or whatever else, anyone who cares about human rights and the treatment of abused women WHEREVER it happens BY WHOMEVER it is done and want to put a stop to it should be talking to each other and uniting against the violence.
The labels "Islamophobe" and "racist" are applied equally to Muslims and Arabs who question Islamic beliefs and practices. This is clearly, plainly completely an issue of beliefs and practices and nothing at all to do with race.
Female genital mutilation is also common in Islamic countries.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prevalence_of_female_genital_mutilation_by_country
Taken from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_genital_mutilation
Type 1 is "partial or total removal of the clitoris and/or the prepuce". Type Ia (circumcision) involves removal of the clitoral hood only. This is rarely performed alone.[d] The more common procedure is Type Ib (clitoridectomy), the complete or partial removal of the clitoral glans (the visible tip of the clitoris) and clitoral hood. The circumciser pulls the clitoral glans with her thumb and index finger and cuts it off.[e]
Type II (excision) is the complete or partial removal of the inner labia, with or without removal of the clitoral glans and outer labia. Type IIa is removal of the inner labia; Type IIb, removal of the clitoral glans and inner labia; and Type IIc, removal of the clitoral glans, inner and outer labia. Excision in French can refer to any form of FGM.
Type III (infibulation or pharaonic circumcision), the "sewn closed" category, involves the removal of the external genitalia and fusion of the wound. The inner and/or outer labia are cut away, with or without removal of the clitoral glans.[f] Type III is found largely in northeast Africa, particularly Djibouti, Eritrea, Ethiopia, Somalia, and Sudan (although not in South Sudan). According to one 2008 estimate, over eight million women in Africa are living with Type III FGM.[g] According to UNFPA in 2010, 20 percent of women with FGM have been infibulated. In Somalia:
The child is made to squat on a stool or mat facing the circumciser at a height that offers her a good view of the parts to be handled. ...[A]dult helpers grab and pull apart the legs of the girl. ... If available, this is the stage at which a local anaesthetic would be used.
The element of speed and surprise is vital and the circumciser immediately grabs the clitoris by pinching it between her nails aiming to amputate it with a slash. The organ is then shown to the senior female relatives of the child who will decide whether the amount that has been removed is satisfactory or whether more is to be cut off.
IIIb (sexually active)
— RAINBO, Swiss Medical Weekly
After the clitoris has been satisfactorily amputated ... the circumciser can proceed with the total removal of the labia minora and the paring of the inner walls of the labia majora. Since the entire skin on the inner walls of the labia majora has to be removed all the way down to the perineum, this becomes a messy business. By now, the child is screaming, struggling, and bleeding profusely, which makes it difficult for the circumciser to hold with bare fingers and nails the slippery skin and parts that are to be cut or sutured together. ...
Having ensured that sufficient tissue has been removed to allow the desired fusion of the skin, the circumciser pulls together the opposite sides of the labia majora, ensuring that the raw edges where the skin has been removed are well approximated. The wound is now ready to be stitched or for thorns to be applied. If a needle and thread are being used, close tight sutures will be placed to ensure that a flap of skin covers the vulva and extends from the mons veneris to the perineum, and which, after the wound heals, will form a bridge of scar tissue that will totally occlude the vaginal introitus.
The amputated parts might be placed in a pouch for the girl to wear. A single hole of 2–3 mm is left for the passage of urine and menstrual fluid.[h] The vulva is closed with surgical thread, or agave or acacia thorns, and might be covered with a poultice of raw egg, herbs and sugar. To help the tissue bond, the girl's legs are tied together, often from hip to ankle; the bindings are usually loosened after a week and removed after two to six weeks.:491 If the remaining hole is too large in the view of the girl's family, the procedure is repeated.
The vagina is opened for sexual intercourse, for the first time either by a midwife with a knife or by the woman's husband with his penis. In some areas, including Somaliland, female relatives of the bride and groom might watch the opening of the vagina to check that the girl is a virgin. Psychologist Hanny Lightfoot-Klein interviewed hundreds of women and men in Sudan in the 1980s about sexual intercourse with Type III:
The penetration of the bride's infibulation takes anywhere from 3 or 4 days to several months. Some men are unable to penetrate their wives at all (in my study over 15%), and the task is often accomplished by a midwife under conditions of great secrecy, since this reflects negatively on the man's potency. Some who are unable to penetrate their wives manage to get them pregnant in spite of the infibulation, and the woman's vaginal passage is then cut open to allow birth to take place. ... Those men who do manage to penetrate their wives do so often, or perhaps always, with the help of the "little knife". This creates a tear which they gradually rip more and more until the opening is sufficient to admit the penis.
The woman is opened further for childbirth (defibulation or deinfibulation), and closed again afterwards (reinfibulation). Reinfibulation can involve cutting the vagina again to restore the pinhole size of the first infibulation. This might be performed before marriage, and after childbirth, divorce and widowhood.
Type IV is "[a]ll other harmful procedures to the female genitalia for non-medical purposes", including pricking, piercing, incising, scraping and cauterization. It includes nicking of the clitoris (symbolic circumcision), burning or scarring the genitals, and introducing substances into the vagina to tighten it. Labia stretching is also categorized as Type IV. Common in southern and eastern Africa, the practice is supposed to enhance sexual pleasure for the man and add to the sense of a woman as a closed space. From the age of eight, girls are encouraged to stretch their inner labia using sticks and massage. Girls in Uganda are told they may have difficulty giving birth without stretched labia.[j]
A definition of FGM from the WHO in 1995 included gishiri cutting and angurya cutting, found in Nigeria and Niger. These were removed from the WHO's 2008 definition because of insufficient information about prevalence and consequences. Angurya cutting is excision of the hymen, usually performed seven days after birth. Gishiri cutting involves cutting the vagina's front or back wall with a blade or penknife, performed in response to infertility, obstructed labour and other conditions. In a study by Nigerian physician Mairo Usman Mandara, over 30 percent of women with gishiri cuts were found to have vesicovaginal fistulae (holes that allow urine to seep into the vagina).
Short-term and late
Keloidal scar tissue
— RAINBO, 1999:97
FGM harms women's physical and emotional health throughout their lives.:49 It has no known health benefits. The short-term and late complications depend on the type of FGM, whether the practitioner has had medical training, and whether they used antibiotics and sterilized or single-use surgical instruments. In the case of Type III, other factors include how small a hole was left for the passage of urine and menstrual blood, whether surgical thread was used instead of agave or acacia thorns, and whether the procedure was performed more than once (for example, to close an opening regarded as too wide or re-open one too small).
Common short-term complications include swelling, excessive bleeding, pain, urine retention, and healing problems/wound infection. A 2015 systematic review of 56 studies that recorded immediate complications suggested that each of these occurred in more than one in ten girls and women undergoing any form of FGM, including symbolic nicking of the clitoris (Type IV), although the risks increased with Type III. The review also suggested that there was under-reporting. Other short-term complications include fatal bleeding, anaemia, urinary infection, septicaemia, tetanus, gangrene, necrotizing fasciitis (flesh-eating disease), and endometritis.:49 It is not known how many girls and women die as a result of the practice, because complications may not be recognized or reported. The practitioners' use of shared instruments is thought to aid the transmission of hepatitis B, hepatitis C and HIV, although no epidemiological studies have shown this.:50
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