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Moderated General Discussion / Re: Why Men Want Casual Sex
« on: October 30, 2017, 08:42:08 AM »Your not right, most men don't care how many sexual partners a women has had. In truth it is women themselves that care how many sexual partners other women have had. It is a well known fact women are more critical of other women than men are.
Well, the guy who wrote this article http://marriedmansexlife.com/2010/03/10-critical-things-in-how-to-choose-a-wife/ and the men who commented on it show that men DO care how many women their wife has slept with.
I'll quote #6 on the list of desired traits:
6. Virgin. You heard me. The fewer sexual partners a woman has before marriage the higher her marital satisfaction and the sexual satisfaction she has within marriage. You very much want your wife to sexually imprint on sex with you and completely bond to you. The sex is just going to be that much better over the long term. Not to mention no other ex-lovers lurking on Facebook, sexual diseases, bad experiences and regrets to worry about. The harsh truth to the modern hook up girl is that yes indeed every time you sleep with another man, you damage your long term wife potential. Plus the best predicator of future behavior is past behavior and highly promiscuous women before marriage are probably far more likely to cheat on you during marriage.
For the record I also believe the man should ideally be a virgin too. I say this not from a current religious perspective – in my teens and early 20’s I was an evangelical Christian but am a quite firm atheist now – but simply from the perspective that while this was horribly hard in my time before Jennifer, the sexual payoff and trust between us is outstandingly good and on balance a significant part of our current happiness. I am laid like tile and have been for 15 years now. However I will not lie and say it was anything other than torture at the time though.
A commenter:
Today's pretty, young, American women (7s and up, maybe even 6s) would have to be total prudes, or very religious, or extremely picky in some way, to make it into their 20s as virgins.
I would restate it as:
6. No history of casual sex.
Stated that way, I couldn't agree more.
Another commenter:
The basic princple though is be as first for each other as you can be. There is a commitment to the idea of marriage you hope to see before hand.
Another commenter:
Broken home, promiscuity, aimless, etc.; these are all things that should give a guy pause.
Another commenter:
Let's not forget the author prefaced his list with the goal of finding a life partner and raising a passel of kids. While YOUNG. It's a great list, although not particularily well suited for the "modern woman" who is mostly interested in career and casual sex during her 20's and 30's.
THAT woman is largely unmarriable by 30 to any but the most desperate and beta man. It may not be fair, but it is a reality. Sorry ladies, but just sniffing "double standard, unfair" dosen't make it any less true.
Another commenter:
Yes, only marry a virgin, if you want a woman who will be able to bond with you.
And by virgin, I mean no sexual contact of any kind with anybody. (For you sluts out there, that means no blow jobs, or anal sex or sticking your tongue in some girls cunt.)
If you won't buy a used mattress, why would you accept a used woman?
And for all the women who whine that men are not being penalized for casual sex: 1)why that is so is explained on most blogs for men, and 2) why don't you raise your standards?
(And by raising your standards, I don't mean becoming the 50th ho of a bigger thug.)
End of quoted comments.
There are many more examples everywhere that can be found, an endless supply basically, but here is enough to show you that YES, absolutely a man cares about how many women his wife has been with before him.
Now those men who have been promiscuous feel they are being hypocritical if they expect a woman to be a virgin, but that wouldn't be an issue if he also were to keep himself pure for his future wife. Everybody wins.
