The community so far has been uninterested in playing with a "noob"
After reading your comments, I suggest that you stay away from the "Garden of War" scene. Most players who play there are super specialized, know the map from memory, and only use one of a handful of optimal strategies, so obviously a new guy won't have a chance.
Some of us prefer to play water maps, where you'll see that a newer player has more time to set up a base etc. before being attacked; it also allows you to use some of the skills you learned during the singleplayer campaign that are never used in gow (such as managing oil, using transports and sea combat). Finally, in water maps humans are not in the same magnitude of disadvantage because they get more chances to use their magic (invisible transports, exorcism hit and run etc.)
I think at least twice a week some of us play a handful of 4 vs 4 on High Seas Combat, Fierce Ocean Combat, Ocean Bloom or similar maps
If you leave an email or something maybe I can contact you next time I play
See you on the server